Do you have a thing?
Somebody asked me recently, what mine and my hubby’s thing is. You know, that one thing you both share an enjoyment of, that you do together.
Other than sex I mean.
Some people like to go for walks together, or watch a movie.
Some like to sail, cycle, or run.
Other share a love of photography, dance or the arts.
Hubby and I, well, we both quite like sleep, and, erm… Well, that’s it really. We don’t read the same kind of books, like the same music, movies or sports.
We have nothing.
I have spent the best part of the morning trying to come up with something, anything, and am failing miserably.
What about you, do you and your other half have a thing? Is it important to have a thing?
Should I be worried or does it not matter?
I'm Heather, an ex expat, now back in blighty and living in Lancashire. Which is just like Lapland only less snowy...and stuff.
i am newly single and have finally come round to the fact that I’d like to meet someone else. Are common interest important? Nah but I do think a shared sense of humour is.
No, no thing for us either. In fact, after all this time, I think all my own things have kind of been forgotten. That’s not so good! (He’s the type who likes to lounge, relax, sit…. I don’t, just like Josie and a few other of your commenters). We compromise for each other a lot and I think that is probably more important than having a shared ‘thing’ together – so sometimes I’ll (give in and) sit around… it’s rare… and sometimes he’ll take me out for a meal (and look at the prices on the menu and exclaim loudly at them….sigh) with our daughter in tow.
Swings and round-abouts. Shrug.
Eh, I can’t think of anything either to be honest! >_<
Our thing is food and sleep. Is that healthy? We don’t do both of our things at the same time…
Same here! Don’t think it’s a bad thing though…but it would be handy if I enjoyed Deep Sea Documentaries!
I’m like Supermum. I don’t have a thing or another half, but I get on with myself pretty well and I don’t argue with myself too much!
I wouldn’t worry too much. My husband and I do have a thing – it’s going to gigs. Know what that means? We don’t spend very much time talking to each other.
Me and the husband have things. Yes, plural. We have an absolute addiction to TV (lol!) and blogging. In fact, it was blogging that got us together in the first place. That makes it a pretty damn good thing.
No, no, no. It does NOT matter. I will not allow it too. As we are the same.
I think we are more interesting couples because of it. Really, who wants to hold hands whilst walking, skiing and photography together? Pur-lease. Yuck.
MD xx
Reading some of the comments it appears that people are couples BECAUSE they are polar opposites – they complement each other and meet in the middle. Is that the attraction?
I love reading and writing – he does neither
He loves watching films – I fall asleep 10 minutes in
We have similar tastes in music but not exactly the same
I actually think it would be boring if we were the “same”.
Raising our children is our thing lol i hope. My hubby and I are so very different but we get on and complement each other. I wouldnt worry about it as long as you are happy xxx
Yes, food! And..
…um…
Hold on, I’ll get back to you.
Nope-wouldn’t worry. As long as you communicate.
It is a bit annoying when you know couples that are always joined at the hip.
But sleep’s good, right….?
aww, how romantic.
I’ve no idea how one goes about getting one as mostly it would mean either forcing the OH top do something he doesn’t like or doing something that bores me. Maybe things are better this way…
I was thinking the same thing, really, all my things have been forgotten or just aren’t possible to do here. Maybe it’s not ‘us’ that needs a thing, maybe i need to find my own thing.
It seems there are many of us that don’t have a thing. Maybe it is a good thing?
food and sleep are good things, i think! lol
thank god for Twitter, eh?
not too much?= well that’s ok then
good point. lol
Really? that’s so sweet! Have you blogged about the story? Got a link?
A little bit of occasional hand holding might be nice…you know, like special occasions…maybe…
Nah, sod it. If we did all that I wouldn’t have time for the things i actually enjoy like writing and blogging
It seems so, huh? It is good to know i’m not alone. sometimes i think i must be the only one. I guess we all do that, huh?
Sound advise there!
It seems to be the way of things
well, sometimes, when we see each other lol
We like to do wild and crazy things in tents. Okay, we like to camp. It is even better now that the little boy has his own tent.
Side note… we just sleep when we’re on camping trips with the Scouts. We can control ourselves.
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Heavens a thing in common?!! Well like you guys we both quite like sleep, problem is we’ve forgotten what we did when it was just us now there are the boys too so at present it is that sleep thing! As for sex…well to be honest I think we’ll just hang out for the sleep!
Haha, makes you wonder how you ever got together doesn’t it. Initially it seems you do like the same things. You both like movies, books, music, whatever… But over time you find out it’s just not the same movies books, music and whatever. I have to say that I feel slightly cheated!
I know exactly what you mean!
We dont have a thing either. There is nothing wrong with each linking your own thing, i think that half the reason why we vary rarely argue.
Thats a good point! Although sometimes i think we don’t fight much because we hardly ever see each other. lol
Sex is way over rated, sleep IS the new sex. Well, in our house anyway
Thank you my dear
So it’s the same sleeping thing that we have, only under canvas
You know as long as you both have something that interests you I don't think it's neccessarily important to have a thing you do together. Some couples do. Some don't. Really, how much time do you get together. We've recently started trying to watch a movie together once a week. But that doesn't always work out. We do enjoy each other's company and really miss our Sunday morning chats. But as for a hobby or whatnot we do together, not really. We tried when we first started dating and we discovered that we're better off pursuing our individual interests.
Too much togetherness isn't healthy either.
Im with you there. We have such different interests that it would never work
and would be a compromise for both of us. then it becomes a chore and then
really, whats the point?