You Build Me Up And Then You Shoot Me Down

Dear lover*,

your desire to please is admirable, your wanting to give me my hearts desire, is sweet.  But I could have done without spending a whole day looking at gorgeous new log houses to build on our farm, deciding on room layouts and choosing styles.  Building up my dreams of having a fabulous new home where everything works, the windows aren’t cracked, the pipes aren’t about to burst any moment, the dodgy wiring doesn’t keep blowing light bulbs to the point where I’ve just stopped bothered buying new ones and we will be spending this winter in the dark, that all looks out over the lake (something which our current home, although we are right on the edge of said lake, doesn’t do for some inexplicable reason) and everything is shiny and new (really new, not your 20 years old is still new Finnish way of thinking) only for you to come home and tell me that we can’t afford it anyway.

Really, just for future reference, that little snippet of information would have been better delivered before I wasted an entire day looking at houses and ordering brochures.

Sigh.

Signed, your ever loving and not too desperately depressed (nothing a new kitchen wouldn’t fix, anyway) lover,

H xx

* I’ve not taken a new lover that wooed me with the promise of a new house, but after the comments on this post about us not being married have decided to call him my lover instead of husband.  It has a much better ring to it somehow and always makes me smile.

22 Responses to You Build Me Up And Then You Shoot Me Down

  1. Steve says:

    See, us guys mistakenly believe that giving a woman the dream as opposed to the reality is enough. It’s certainly cheaper and that’s enough for us to make it all worthwhile. ;-)

  2. Lynn Åsnes says:

    Ah, men. When will they ever learn?

  3. No dear, it just makes us want to stab you repeatedly in the head with
    something sharp and pointy.

  4. Anonymous says:

    ‘My Lover’ makes you sound like you come from the West Country, I’m sure it would just raise a few sniggers back in Rochdale though. ;-)

    I often torment myself by spending far too long on the net looking at 5 bed villas with pool and a sea view. It’s really not good for the soul. One day eh?

  5. I think even ‘one day’ might be stretching it a bit lol. It was a ice
    dream whilst it lasted though.

  6. Oh dear Heather. Men just never learn. I am on tenderooks at the moment as my hubbie keeps buying things for the house and suggesting we buy things and I know sometime soon he will crack and declare us bankrupt! but I love spending too much to say no….. whoops.

    Mich x

  7. Anonymous says:

    I know what you mean. My husband just took a new job for a significant increase in pay. I was dreaming of gym memberships, dinners out, and trips to the theater. Instead, he informed me that after taxes and insurance, we’ll have enough to actually make ends meet. blah.

  8. JulieB says:

    Boo hoo. There I was getting all excited at coming to stay in the big house with the sauna in the basement. Guess I’ll have to cancel my flights…

  9. Misssy M says:

    Haha! you went for “lover” – good on you girl! Now…use it in casual conversation, I dare ya!

  10. Now the comments are open-before I swear they were closed.

  11. Anonymous says:

    I think I’m going to start calling my hubs “lover”. It sounds sexy and scandalous all at the same time.

  12. Dara says:

    Ugh. We went through the exact same thing. Though it wasn’t his fault. But I had contacted agents, arranged viewings, created a spreadsheet of possible properties and all the pertinent details about them . . .
    Only to find out he hadn’t thought of asking at the bank about leaving our current mortgage early.
    Ah well, I have two years of prep work I can do now.

  13. lol, i know what you mean!

  14. Me too! Never mind, we’ll just have to make do with the 2 saunas we already have! lol

  15. I supose it’s good that there is one sensible one in each relationship, but still…

  16. Oh I so want to…but I’m such a chicken, And I don’t think i could actually say it with a straight face!

  17. PMSL at you and your spreadsheets!

  18. aussiejazz says:

    Urgh what a waste of energy! We used to do that dance, years ago. Last time I was shot down somewhere over new home dream heaven, I swore it’d be the last time I let my hopes up.

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